Diary of husband's and wife's

I cannot help myself to share with you here, a forwarded email which was sent by Ain. Enjoy!

WIFE's DIARY Sunday night - I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment. Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent. I asked him what was wrong - he said, "Nothing." I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry. On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior; I don't know why he didn't say, "I love u, too." When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there and watched TV; he seemed distant and absent. Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed. I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep. I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster. HUSBAND's DIARY Today Manchester United lost the match. DAMN IT..!!

p/s: A typical example of "Man from Mars, Women from Venus?"

What! Mosquitoes!?

I never hate mosquitoes like i hate them now. I never really think about them before. I dun care if one or two take the previleges to taste my sweet blood! :P But, I dunno why suddenly for past few days, this pesky, bothersome, wicked insect suddenly like attacking me with all their might in my very room. It hard for me to get a proper sleep with them attacking, biting me like there is nobody else in the world. Itchy and swelling all over!

I need my sleep, for god sake! ( Read: Nyamuk, apa salah saya?! :P)

Angry and frustrated, I declared war now and here! I bought the notorious Ridsect last night and the extensive smell of it came to my aid. They could not stand the smell and run and one or two were like fainting straightaway :P ( I watched the show with my evil smile spanning from ear to ear! Damn me! :P)

I was a king in my room again! :P

( Assumption: People must have taken some preventive measure out there since news on dengue fever is all over the papers. So, with their home being invaded, these mosquitoes takes refuge in my cozy room! :P)

No "moral of the story" for this entry yah! :P See, who say i'm against crapping? [ppl cheering followed by the wave :P]

Hari Raya Eidul Adha!!

From all of us here, SELAMAT HARI RAYA EIDUL ADHA!! Semoga bertambah iman dalam diri kita. :)

Growth and Firm Foundation.

Yesterday, Nara, the secretary of the Johor Chess Association, called me, inviting me to enter the Southern City Chess Tournament this coming 30 Jan. I gave my nod to put my name in the participant list.

I just love competitive chess! We are like a big family here. Again and again, we will find the familiar faces, thinking hard to outwit their opponent.

This time around, most of the chess players who have decided to participate - me included - will ONLY start to prepare certain lines to brush up our opening repertoire and to sharpen our mind. Some just do not.

And we hope to get top place in the tournament. Ironic since we have not practice daily.

In "The Success Journey", Frank Tibolt in the introduction wrote:

A firm foundation is built on growth, not rushing. Growth, whether plant growth, muscle growth, or mind growth, is governed by natural laws. It can't be forced beyond previous preparation. Each day's growth prepares for the next day growth. We can never break nature's laws. Too often we break ourselves, trying.

Make sense, rite? Of course we have a dream, but without a proper training, are we deserve the win? Most of the time, not! :P (We will find that the master are too tough a nut to crack since they regularly practise :P)

Optimist ALONE and quick fix are not enough! Rome could not be built in one day!

Take for granted!

I'm full. Having my dinner at KFC just now and I'm full. It was original, snack plate set. What was left in my plate was nothing but bones. And, for your information, I do not take sauce whenever I've original set, since the mixture tastes good enuff to me. And, the smashed potato looks --

Ok, cut the crap!

Anyway, when I was ordering the meal, I saw the girl put two chicken breasts in the plate. I asked a chicken wing for change. She informed me that there was no chicken wing, and NEVER have chicken wings in an original set. (At least the girl told me so :P) I was like "REALLY?". I thought I'd one before, but come to think of it, I never have asked for change and ate whatever part given. Hmm, what I'm trying to say here is that I take it for granted, and I do not know that there is no chciken wings in an original set. Not until I asked for the change.

Ok, this is not a good example. :P And, perhaps you still do not get what I'm trying to convey :P

I dunno how many things we just take for granted in our life. I'm sure, a lot!! It become part of our life and those things become subconciously we live with. They become a habit. However, I believe, certain things should not be. If we examine close enough, we will find out what things - for our sake - should not be taken for granted.

Anyway, we DO take things for granted. The obvious - day in day out, we wake up. Go to work. Back. And sleep. Eat. Pray. Month in, month out. Year in, year out. And most of us are still doing the same thing again and again. Same job. Same salary. And no improvement whatsoever. Most of us feel comfortable in our comfort zone.

We do mistakes, but how many times you do same mistake again and again and never care to overcome it?

And, how many times we read about certain safety guides and measurement in the newspapers or books or even a small handouts, stating on something that we can avoid, and unfortunately we do not take any action until we face it personally or become the victim?

Let me tell you something. In my experience as system administrator, again and again I will hear news from my counterpart on how backup power generator fail when it is most needed. Just because they take it for granted that it is working all the time without doing some testing from time to time to validate its functionality. Plus we think that the chances the main resource of power to go down is small.

At least, I myself take a lot of things for granted. :P I know because Ain tells me so. There are lot of things I take for granted before - which I think as small matters i could think later when i've spare time - being hightlighted by Ain. Since in a relationship you should not take things for granted, i consider. And I have been improving since then.

There must be ways of doing things. Alternatives. But, we still love to do the thing in our common way and do not even consider the alternatives. Who knows, the alternatives are much much better!

When I was in Jedi training, Yoda taught me to "Unlearn what I've learnt". By that, he means that, without pre-perception, to examine things and not take them for granted, and things you find need to be fixed, unlearn them and relearn. Find the alternative! There must be another way!

Ok, again, i cut the crap. I never been a Jedi apperentice. (and you will definitely do not buy to that!:P) I know, you can think on your own!!

Pics from Master's Hand

In my Jan 9 entry, i talked on how i met Saiful Nang at my friend's wedding. He has published the pictures taken that day at his fotopages.



The bride and bridegroom. Aziruddin and Faridatul Amla. Sama padan!



Azi and i were exchanging info about friends. Hey, we are now an adult! And i gained extra weight since the last time we met!



My fiancee,Ain, and Fida, talking. Perhaps, Ain tried to get some tips? :P


I just believe that when one has developed one's skill in the field that one's like most, the outcome will be quite amazing. Outstanding results will come quite effortlessly.

Deep Breath

Just now, when i flipped thru the Nov issue Reader's Digest pages, i stumbled to this paragraph (pg: 114):

The newest research says that the best way to handle stress is not by checking into a day spa or anything else where the end goal is stress reduction. That sort of binge-and-purge approach does little to keep us relaxed. Instead, we should simply acknowledged that life is full of little tensions because, hey, that's life. And we should handle it moment by moment the way people always have, by taking a deep breath and getting some perspective.

This reminds me of one fine day, several weeks ago, where i sent sms to my circle of friends. It was something like this: "If you have time, have a deep breath". Ironically, 4 or 5 of them replied back, asking what happened to me, and whether i was ok or not. To me, the message was crystal clear. If you have time, have a deep breath. It's good for you :P

I don't know when i started to have this exercise. It must be some influnce from books i read and i have been practising it since. Again and again, my colleagues and friends alike presume that i'm half insane :P

And i still love having a deep breath!

My First Entry of The Year!

Here we go. My first entry of this year come as late as the 9th day of January. Late indeed but in these days, a lot of things happened. I should say the opening of the year is quite remarkable for me. If not because there were already happened, I would think that I had dellusion of some sort. :P

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Well. Please bear with me for being a bit human in this entry! :P

It's not a hidden fact that I spent my first day of the year in KL and Selangor. I did attend my friend's wedding at Bandar Baru Bangi where both husband and wife were my ex-coursemate. And later, I met my terato friends at KLCC and spent sometimes hanging out with them at Burger King, and watched "Meet The Fockers" afterward.

The day after that, Sunday, our parent - my fiancee's and mine - met and in their conservation, they agreed that perhaps, our wedding will be postponed to 2006 for some reason. Of course that has been discussed beforehand between us. The actual month is still undecided. Who knows, we cannot wait, and getting married this year. Everything depends on the situation. So, to those who are so eager to attend our wedding, please be patient :P

Several day after that, I got fever. Rest assured that the ailment was not due to the postponement. :P I had a sudden sore throat. And in no time, I contracted by a bad flu on Wednesday and I got fever. I was on MC on Thursday. This MC, if I'm not mistaken, was only the third time since my 4 years of working. (More often than not, I just ignored them and believed they would go by themsleves). So stuborn, I spent half day in the office before went back and slept and to my craziness, I went back to office after working hours. It's not crazy if you take how far my office from my room is into consideration. 3 minutes errand is nothing to me. :P

And yesterday was working Saturday. And what you expect if you have a meeting started from 9 to 1 p.m? Of course a boring one! I was looking forward to that evening outing with Ain. She has booked ticket to watch Kungfu Hustle. And this loooong meeting! Owhh, how dreadful. But, again, something happened that saved me from total boredom. In the middle of the meeting, our company receptionist brought a small bouquet of flower, mentioning that it was from my fiancee. Oh my God, in the middle of meeting! And my colleagues started to smile from ears to ears and asked on what occasion the flower being sent. I could not recall any, and they frightened me by saying that I must have forgotten something and in huge trouble. C'mon! Ain sent that for fun surely :P It's a nice feeling just the same. But, I admit, it's weird for a girl to give flower to a guy. It's always the other way around. But who cares! Thanks dear!

Hmmm, and, today? Today is something that totally unexpected happened. The world is so small I can feel it, and it seems our life and others become intertwined in amazing way. It was another wedding ceremony. It was a great wedding ceremony, and it was being held at Dewan Jubli Intan, Jb. Both bride and bridegroom, Aziruddin and Faridatul Amla, were my ex-schoolmate back at Sc Muar. As soon as we - Ain and I - arrived at the hall, we straight paced toward the couple. Heyy, it took a while for them to remember me and they said - like my friends I met at BBB - I have changed a lot physically. No wonder since the last time they saw me was almost 10 years ago. :P

Now came to the nice part. When I handshake Azi's hand, the cameraman took pictures of us. Glancing at him, I realized it was a familiar face! It was Saiful Nang. Ok, that name minght not ring any bell upon you, but it did on Ain and me. Saiful is a famous photo blogger. His snapshot is so creative and different. I once showed the photoblog to Katak, and guess what? He told me, Saiful was his lecturer back at Lim Kok Wing Institute! Anyway, when Azi and Fida have a futher conversation later and Saiful again took our picture, we said straight to him that we are his fan and he was flattered. :P You can see his photoblog here.

The world is so small, indeed.

Ok, back to matter in hand. :P If you realize, this blog now has guest writers. This idea has been discussed between Iqa and me long time ago since we thought, by doing so, this blog will be more regularly update. I'm looking forward to making and witnessing this blog to be better this year. :P